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 How To Tell If They Like You There are different answers for men and for women. Men tend to err in the direction of assuming the woman is interested because she's being polite. Women tend to err in the direction of assuming a man isn't interested because he's dividing his time equally between her and something completely trivial like, say, earning a living. For Men: You'll know if they like you. Trust me, you will. What this means is that if you're really not sure--then they probably don't. Most women are not teases. If you've been out on 5 dates and she hasn't kissed you yet, then she's going home to her friends and saying "Jesus Christ, hasn't he noticed that I haven't kissed him yet?!?!?! Why does he keep calling me? He's going to make me tell him to go away, isn't he?" She may also be doing things like not returning your calls and only seeing you once every other week or so. Why the girl does keep going out on the occasional date, I don't know. It's just something we do. We were brought up to be conciliatory. Blame it on our mothers. But, remember, you should be civilized. Pick up on the cues and don't force a big confrontation. This way you both come out with your egos intact. An example: I have a girlfriend who, in college, didn't want to go out on a date she'd agreed to go out on. When the boy came to pick her up, she was upstairs hiding in a friend's room. He stormed around the dorm looking for her and finally knocked on the door of the room she was in. My friend hid behind the door, while her friend opened it. The guy asked where his prospective date was and the woman said she didn't know. The guy then peered around the door, saw his date, said, "oh, there you are! Are you ready?" My friend smiled and said "Sure, give me five minutes" and they went out on the date. I will not defend her behaviour, but come on! He should have paid attention to what she was doing, not what she was saying. You may think that this is an extreme example but, as far as I can tell, guys do things like this all the time.) For Women: You'll know if they like you. Trust me, you will. But only if you're not a freak about it. You know how if one of your friends is really busy and they say "I can't talk right now" you hang up the phone and don't think twice about it? Because you know that you're friends. She's been nice to you 50 million other times, so the fact that she was short once isn't an issue. But if a boy does it to you, you get all stressed out and insecure and convinced that he hates you--even though he's also been nice to you 50 million times before. Don't succomb to this rollercoaster ride. (On the other hand, women need to be sensitive to the cues, too.
If you're always calling and he's always getting off the phone--pay attention
to that. It could mean he's not interested, it could mean he doesn't like being
called at work, it could mean lots of things. Lay off for awhile. See what happens.) - Back Duplication or reproduction of any use of these articles without permission is subjected to punishable by law. Please contact our webmaster for any questions. |
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